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Do You Deserve Happiness?



Few things make me happier than a simple vanilla candle and some twinkly lights; but is true happiness a right?

It seems to be a common misconception amongst millennials, yes I've accepted that I am a millennial, that we deserve things, are entitled. We deserve a satisfying job. We deserve wealth or, at the very least, financial security. We deserve family. We deserve Love. 
We deserve happiness.

But do we really? 

Or do we see the generations before us, who have most of these things, and expect to have the same? Are we entitled or we deserving? 

I honestly have no clue. I'm 31 now and it doesn't seem to be getting any easier. Older friends, ones who have these things and yet for some unknown reason still aren't happy, will tell you that of course you deserve these things. They are a right! I'm remain unconvinced. 

I'm trying very hard to change my attitudes towards my entitlement. I no longer expect things to be handed to me. I am trying not to expect too much of others. I am changing my attitude and I am dropping my expectations. Because by taking this small step I have noticed that I am happier without trying to be happy. By stepping away from competitiveness I have found a sort of peace. 

Its not a perfect way of life. I still want love. I would like security. I would like world peace. I would like a lot of things. Do I deserve them? I just don't know. 

*This post was brought to by some very introspective emotions and some twinkly lights around my favourite candle*

Comments

  1. I really need to stop expecting things , especially when it's based on someone else's actions.

    We do all deserve to be happy & in love but I believe it's up to us to get this ourselves .... it won't just fall in our laps... nobody will be truly happy until they themselves do something towards it.

    Lovely post
    Love Coco xxxx
    www.cocochatter.blogspot.com

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    1. Absolutely! It is something that has to be worked on and cultivated. We can't just expect or demand happiness.
      Small steps! Xx

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